Getting out early today from work to begin our two week Christmas break. Looking forward to just chilling. Though it's really hard to chill these days because of the little one.
He's so cute these days. It's weird, how my love for him keeps growing. But emotions are so fickle. My old pastor, Joe talked about this theory called a love bank. We each have one with every one we know. Every time you meet with that person and have a positive encounter you make a deposit into the love bank. And whenever you have a negative encounter you make a
withdraw. So with some people like your spouse and children, their love bank has so much credit that it would take a lot to get into the negative. As for others that are mere acquaintances, a few bad encounters and you close the account.
The great thing about this theory is that you can change people's impression of you. Though sometimes you might start out with a negative balance just by your first impression. I'm probably one of those people. The funny thing is that at work I try harder to leave good impressions than I do with my social friends. For instance at work I will compliment people and just schmooze and talk idle chit chat. But at church for instance I never do that. I don't feel like schmoozing and I don't idly compliment people. Maybe because work Jin is fake and church Jin is real, and real Jin doesn't want to bother with all that BS crap because it is tiring.
So does this mean I work harder at relationships at work than I do at church? I think it does. It's inherently selfish, because I know positive work relationships will benefit me by getting more money and promotions, hopefully. But there really isn't any tangible benefit to working on your social relationships other than strengthening bonds that you care about. Maybe I don’t care, maybe I don’t have any love left to deposit, maybe relationships are just too hard…
That's the thing! Relationships are hard and they require a lot of work. I’m really lazy and the relationships that I do focus on pretty much take up most of my time. My marriage takes the most of my energy, Christian, then dealing with my mother in law. I have my close friends that I've known for years and that takes some energy to call them up and make time for each other. Then finally what breaks your back I think is the dealing with your work family all week. Let's face it, you spend more time with them then your real family. So come the weekend you're spent and you just want to relax, not talk to anyone, drink some beer and watch football. (Man I wish football season was longer!)
So is that it!? I really don’t want it to be. I want to keep expanding my circle of friends, people that I truly do care about and love. But it goes back to laziness, am I willing to do it?
He's so cute these days. It's weird, how my love for him keeps growing. But emotions are so fickle. My old pastor, Joe talked about this theory called a love bank. We each have one with every one we know. Every time you meet with that person and have a positive encounter you make a deposit into the love bank. And whenever you have a negative encounter you make a
withdraw. So with some people like your spouse and children, their love bank has so much credit that it would take a lot to get into the negative. As for others that are mere acquaintances, a few bad encounters and you close the account.The great thing about this theory is that you can change people's impression of you. Though sometimes you might start out with a negative balance just by your first impression. I'm probably one of those people. The funny thing is that at work I try harder to leave good impressions than I do with my social friends. For instance at work I will compliment people and just schmooze and talk idle chit chat. But at church for instance I never do that. I don't feel like schmoozing and I don't idly compliment people. Maybe because work Jin is fake and church Jin is real, and real Jin doesn't want to bother with all that BS crap because it is tiring.
So does this mean I work harder at relationships at work than I do at church? I think it does. It's inherently selfish, because I know positive work relationships will benefit me by getting more money and promotions, hopefully. But there really isn't any tangible benefit to working on your social relationships other than strengthening bonds that you care about. Maybe I don’t care, maybe I don’t have any love left to deposit, maybe relationships are just too hard…
That's the thing! Relationships are hard and they require a lot of work. I’m really lazy and the relationships that I do focus on pretty much take up most of my time. My marriage takes the most of my energy, Christian, then dealing with my mother in law. I have my close friends that I've known for years and that takes some energy to call them up and make time for each other. Then finally what breaks your back I think is the dealing with your work family all week. Let's face it, you spend more time with them then your real family. So come the weekend you're spent and you just want to relax, not talk to anyone, drink some beer and watch football. (Man I wish football season was longer!)
So is that it!? I really don’t want it to be. I want to keep expanding my circle of friends, people that I truly do care about and love. But it goes back to laziness, am I willing to do it?
Christian chose the pen, meaning he will be a scholar. 
Practicing. 
